The Empath Addiction
Rescue! Have you subsumed your identity to the constraints of a relationship, a job or a situation?
Empaths have a huge need to help and to be appreciated. For empaths relationships are often weighted one way.
They may sacrifice nearly anything to help others at their own expense. There is a belief that helping someone will be reciprocated. Then someone will then save us. It doesn’t work that way.
Look at your business or personal partner and see how he or she is showing up “in your movie”. Is that really who they are? Or is that who you want them to be?
Or are you playing a roll in their movie?. Are you truly being yourself?
Empaths attempt to fix this by rescuing so others so they don’t feel the pain. If you rescue you give up a part of yourself to the constraints of the relationship.
While the White Knight fulfills the need to be seen, and appreciated it isn’t sustainable. It becomes a fix. An addiction to be the hero.
We can never do someone else’s work for them. We can only model the change we want to see.
When there is unconditional acceptance by either partner, your partner loves and appreciates you, just the way you are, exactly as you are. They accept all the parts of you.
How do we help our partners? We can only do our own work to heal the lost aspects of ourselves. Then we are no longer triggered by them. They are no longer triggered by you.
This is true mentoring and coaching. This is the new paradigm for “business” coaching. We are looking for mentors who can go to this level with themselves and their clients.
If you would like to take your practice to the next level let us know. But first, we must do our own work.
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And be the change you want to see.